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When you hear that inner mom-guilt voice whisper, "you're not good enough," here's what to say to yourself instead
Parenting is hard enough without a pandemic to navigate. We should be congratulating ourselves for just getting through the day, instead of us beating ourselves up for not measuring up to the Pinterest post next door.
We all want our child to internalize the best of us and leave the rest. That's why modeling self-love and kindness for yourself is a gift you give your child. Lead by example and you will end up raising a compassionate adult, with healthy boundaries and lots of love to give.
There are a lot of advantages to having extended family close at hand (it takes a village!), but it would be helpful to understand that it will also bring some challenges. Here are some tips for mindfully navigating a smooth transition.
1. Self-Compassion…
2. Nuclear Family Meeting…
3. Establish Ground Rules…
In my practice, I often coach parents about how to move from the punishment model, into creating reasonable consequences that positively shape their child’s behavior. One crucial tool in this toolkit is the three strikes method. Giving your child three strikes before enacting the consequence, provides your child the opportunity to reflect, reshape their behavior and redeem themselves.
Our great nation is also a nation built on great injustice. From the near total annihilation of hundreds of nations of indigenous peoples, to the brutal enslavement of 12 generations of Africans who build the foundations of our prosperity. Our nation has a responsibility to educate our selves and perform consistent actions to address and redress these wrongs. Unfortunately, it has taken the ugly pressure cooker of COVID-19, racist presidential policies and the murder of innocents like George Floyd, Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery, our nation is reigniting a movement which hopefully can create powerful and lasting change.
